Ask and Give — The Reciprocity Habit

The Problem

"Many of us find asking for help hard: we worry about looking weak, being a burden, or not having earned it. Others give until they are empty. Yet people are more willing to help than we think, and generous giving can last when it also looks after the giver."

What you'll achieve

Outcomes you can expect

Name what stops you asking, and ask anyway
Turn a need into one clear, specific request
Give generously without burning out or being taken for granted
Make asking and giving normal in your group

The science behind it

What you'll learn

Why most help follows a request, and why we underestimate others' willingness
How to make a SMART request and take a no gracefully
Otherish giving: generous, and looked after too
Routines that thank askers as well as givers

What's included

Everything you get

24 tools across 6 modules, 12 of them built for this course
A reader for every module, built from the tools and checked against them
An audio guide on every tool and a course audio guide
Private fillable workbooks for 22 tools, kept on your own device; the two that work out scores stay online

Who it's for

The right fit

Designed for For anyone who finds it hard to ask or gives until it hurts: students, staff and managers, team leaders, mentors, carers, and faith and community groups.

Most help happens because someone asked, and people say yes far more often than we expect. A companion to Wayne Baker's All You Have to Do Is Ask, with Adam Grant's Give and Take, this course builds both halves of one habit: asking clearly and without apology, and giving generously without burning out, then making asking and giving normal in your team, residence, workplace or community.

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Ask for what you need, and give generously in a way that lasts

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